FRIDAY FROTH...

The Tiger Tornado continues. I wrote last week that it looked like Tiger was more of a Cheeta(r). Yes, I procrastinated and didn't post what I had written. Over the weekend I read in Maureen Dowd's New York Time's column that the New York Post had already called Tiger a Cheeta(r). Good thing, because in light of the number of women that have admitted to having relations with Mr. Woods, I've down-graded him to a plain-old alley cat. This is the way I see it: Mr. Woods should write his wife a big check, there is absolutely nothing else he has to offer her. He should make no custody demands whatsoever--he clearly has no time for his children. And, he should get himself into therapy immediately--he has issues that go way beyond a cheating husband. And what about the subset of women (heavy on the sub) that either go after, or just go willingly with these married men? I caught Jamie Grubbs (mistress # 11) being interviewed, and while she seemed remorseful for the pain she had caused Tiger's wife, she seemed more shocked than anything that Tiger was cheating on her with other mistresses. Maybe the best word for this subset of women/mistresses is delusional.

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I recently saw two musical movies--Pirate Radio and Michael Jackson's This Is It. Pirate Radio has great music from the 60's and 70's and stars Philip Seymour Hoffman who is always interesting to watch. Although most of the music was released before my "prime music listening time", I knew all of the words and wanted to sing-along. The only time I wanted to sing-along in the Michael Jackson film was when they played a Jackson Five song. It's not that Michael's music was bad, it wasn't. However, I believe that MTV is what made Mr. Jackson a star. His dancing is inimitable! This Is It is not a great movie, but watching those moves was worth every penny of my ticket.

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The White House party crashers are old news--two desperate people seeking attention. The interesting thing about this story is why the White House felt the need to protect its social secretary Desiree Rogers? In an effort to find the breakdown in security, Congress summoned Ms. Rogers, along with others including the director of the Secret Service, Mark Sullivan, up to the Hill for questioning. Ms. Rogers declined citing executive privilege. Mr. Sullivan not only showed up but also took all of the blame for the party-crashing incident. Mr. President, the men in the Secret Service are trained to take a bullet for you and Ms. Rogers plans your parties--think about that for a minute. And, remember that transparency you promised us--where is it?

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In case you missed Nicholas Kristof's December 5th column in the New York Times, check out this link Op-Ed Columnist - Cancer From the Kitchen? - NYTimes.com for some information regarding plastic containers in your kitchen and how they affect your health. If you want the short version then you should know: Plastic containers when exposed to heat--microwave, dishwasher, a hot car (think water bottles) break down and dangerous chemicals leach out. Don't put plastic in your microwave or dishwasher and look for the safe(r) plastics numbered (check the bottom of the container) 1,2,4, or 5. Plastics to avoid (unless they are marked BPA-free) are numbers 3,6, and 7. Now you have a good reason to clean-out your kitchen cabinets!

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Looking for a good movie to see this weekend? Up in the Air staring George Clooney is funny and thought provoking. This movie is well written, directed, and acted--I'm seeing all kinds of Academy Award nominations in its future. Mr. Clooney should certainly be nominated and he may even take Oscar home--that is, if the voters don't find Mr. Clooney's role to be too close to the real Mr. Clooney! A little tidbit of trivia from the film: All of the "actors" that play people that are fired by Mr. Clooney are in fact regular people that have recently lost their jobs--talk about a silver lining!

FRIDAY FROTH...

Sarah Palin released her book, Going Rogue, this week to hoards of fans salivating for some "Sarah Speak". Ms. Palin's popularity it seems, has not waned since the 2008 presidential election. Why is Sarah so popular? Simply because she appeals to the "you can grow up and be president someday" in all of us. We were told as children, or told our children, that anything was possible with hard work--but not until the hockey mom from Alaska got picked to be a vice-presidential nominee did we really believe. The question for all of us is not can we be president, but should we be president? Are grit and common sense enough to qualify one to lead? Alaska, maybe. The free world? I think not.

A couple of thoughts on Ms. Palin: (a) She tries to explain away not being able to list newspapers or magazines that informed her world view, as asked by Katie Couric, by saying that she was ticked off at Ms. Couric and therefore was "flippant", but it was "her bad" and she should have answered. This is akin to Bill Clinton telling the American public that he smoked pot but didn't inhale. Sorry Sarah, I don't buy it. (b) Newsweek magazine's cover of Ms. Palin in her running shorts makes Ms. Palin look very good (in fact, great--she's had five kids!) but makes Newsweek look HORRIBLE. Shame on you Newsweek!

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What do three blonds in New York do for fun? (a) They walk in Central park and talk about how men in New York are sophisticated and well dressed, and men in San Francisco are more casual and conservative. We concluded that there is a very European influence in New York while San Francisco's influence is, well, not European. (b) They go see Jude Law in Hamlet. He was fabulous. Not just incredibly handsome and charming fabulous, but oozing Hamlet-like conflict fabulous. Mr. Law delivered his lines with a humor that had an underlying pathos that we (the three blonds) believe will earn him a Tony nomination. (c) They shop for SHOES! One of the blonds introduced the other two blonds to Roger Vivier shoes. These shoes are classic and feminine: some with a curved heel or a big buckle that give them a certain edge--very Catherine Deneuve. (d) They drink champagne, and because November is two of the blonds birth month, there were pink party favors that I can't tell you about!

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People magazine's sexiest man alive for this year is Johnny Depp--handsome and a little naughty--enough said!

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Most countries are known for something--France has its wine and Italy has its pasta. So, if you drink your way through France and eat your way through Italy, then surely you Kama Sutra your way through India! This exotic country has beautiful hotels (any of the Oberoi group will do nicely, thank-you), spicy and delicious food, and the kama sutra for sale in every hotel gift shop. Don't take the kids.

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I read in New Delhi's newspaper, Mail Today, that Indian actress, Mallika Sherawat, will be starring in Doug McHenry's romantic comedy-- Love, Barack. The paper said that the film "tracks the romance between a Democrat campaign volunteer and her Republican counterpart in the run-up to last year's Presidential election." Ms. Sherawat's character is based on San Francisco's attorney general, Kamala Harris.

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I like to keep Fridays light (frothy), but, I am going to close by saying that while David Brooks (genuflect) of the New York Times wrote a column today entitled "What Geithner Got Right", and clearly I am fond of David Brooks (g), if I were Mr. Geithner, I would stay away from buses--people have been known to get thrown under them.

INDIA--Delhi

I left San Francisco late morning Thursday and 24 hours later, on Friday night local time, arrived in Delhi. About an hour before landing, I struck up a conversation with a pilot deadheading to India. He told me that it was tricky landing in Delhi on Friday because Delhi's "fog" problem was complicated by smoke from the crematorium. He informed me they cremated their dead on Thursdays and the crematorium was near the airport. This was the first of many contradictory stories that I heard as I traveled around the beautiful and chaotic India.

While I'm not sure of the cause of the smog, I do know that it was overwhelming--my eyes burned and it was hard to breath. The air was soupy with the pollution that the ever-diplomatic guides wanted to call "fog". I live in San Francisco, I know fog, this was not fog.

I immediately and reflexively started looking for similarities in our cultures; I found few.

Delhi's streets are a jumble of cars, tuk-tuks, motorbikes, bikes, cows, and dogs. Horns blare to move someone, or something, out of their path but there doesn't seem to be any road rage--it's just the way it's done. Our streets are ordered and relatively quiet, but heaven help the cow that would get in the way of the ambitious American on their way to the office!

In India ninety percent of marriages are still arranged and divorce is very rare. Americans marry for love, yet well over half of American marriages end in divorce. I couldn't help but wonder if passion has been sucked out of their existence by tradition and replaced with calm.

But the biggest difference? America is a much more culturally secular nation. India is around 80% Hindu, American is around 78% Christian; both have secular governments but religion permeates every aspect of Indian life. We Americans compartmentalize our religion, taking it out when we need it and tucking it away when we don't.

Some people travel with a critical eye: they want to compare host country to home country with home country being the gold standard. Others prefer to self-flagellate as they canvass new territory, constantly criticizing America and "other" Americans ( this may be uniquely American!). I like to travel with a live and let live attitude. Different doesn't have to have better or worse attached to it--except for the "fog" in Delhi, I say viva la difference!

THE WHITE HOUSE VS FOX NEWS--CENSURE OR CENSOR

As research for my musing, I'm a regular watcher of news programs: NBC, ABC, CBS, CNN, MSNBC, and Fox News. A few Sundays ago I caught David Axelrod, Senior White House Advisor, telling George Stephanopoulos of ABC's This Week, that Fox News is not really a news organization because they have a "perspective". Mr. Axelrod said that the White House doesn't recognize Fox as a legitimate news organization, and he didn't think that reputable organizations should recognize Fox either.

What?

I agree that Fox, for the most part, has a conservative bent, and I would go as far as to say that a couple of their stars are more interested in bashing Obama than preserving conservatism. However, they also have news anchor, Shepard Smith and congressional correspondent, Major Garret, both of whom appear to be professional and unbiased.

Is it news agencies having a perspective that the White House has a problem with? Or, is it only a problem when the perspective is different than President Obama's?

Chris Wallace, Fox News' Sunday morning anchor, appears to be right of center, but certainly no more so than MSNBC's Chris Matthews is left of center. Why then, would the White House refuse to give Mr. Wallace a place in the line-up of a round-robin set of interviews that Mr. Obama did for Sunday morning news shows while Mr. Matthews was included.

Fox News is certainly not the only news agency to have an opinion. I would contend that Fox and MSNBC are running neck-in-neck in their efforts to please their niche audiences.

Sean Hannity of Fox News goes after Mr. Obama to the point of ludicrous--MSNBC's Keith Olbermann goes after Fox News to the point of ridiculous. Mr. Hannity's questions to his guest are generally rhetorical, and Mr. Olbermann's commentary is often delivered in a mocking voice that is derisive of his subject (and the subject is more often than not, a Fox News personality). Both shows are meant to appeal to an emotional audience--not an audience looking for real, unbiased information.

Glen Beck at Fox is hugely entertaining, albeit a bit hysterical in his efforts. He is criticized for playing loosely with his facts: stating recently that Major Garret had not been called on at a White House press conference when in fact, he had. Mr. Beck's critics, however, are even more miffed when he's right. Acorn, the nation's largest community organizer of low- and moderate-income families was recently denied funding by the Senate after Mr. Beck exposed Acorn workers in several cities giving advice on how to set-up brothels to avoid taxes. No other news agencies seemed interested in the story and the New York Times later admitted that they had been negligent in not covering the story. Mr. Beck also broke the Van Jones story. Mr. Jones, President Obama's Green Czar, is an admitted communist, and after 9/11 suggested that high-level Bush officials might have deliberately allowed the September 11 attacks to occur. Mr. Jones resigned his post amid the controversy.

Bill O'Reilly of Fox News touts his program as fair and balanced and I believe that he makes an effort to be just that. Nevertheless, his conservative social views seep through. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but it does put him at odds with White House views occasionally.

MSNBC's Rachel Maddow is a bright and astute interviewer. I was surprised when one of her lead stories last week was an interview with a woman who had organized a motivational seminar with George W. Bush as key speaker, along with Colin Powell, Rudy Giullani, Zig Ziglar and others. It wasn't quite clear what she was going after: Deriding Bush for speaking at a motivational seminar? Proving that the seminars were right-wing Christian events? With two wars, unemployment nearing 10%, housing foreclosures reaching record highs and the health-care debate, all-important topics, I found myself wondering why MSNBC was interested in George Bush speaking at a motivational seminar?

I prefer to listen to good debate, replete with facts and figures and delivered with passion, not calumny. However, while belligerent debate choked on sarcasm is not pleasant, I'll take it over censorship any day.

Has the White House maligned and marginalized Fox News?

Recently, the New York Times, reported: "Fox's television news competitors refused to go along with a Treasury Department effort on Tuesday to exclude Fox from a round of interviews".

Competitive news organizations don't mind the White House censuring Fox News, but when it comes to censoring news--well, that's another story.

Who wins and who loses in the battle between the White House and Fox News?

Free Speech won when the other news organizations refused to be complicit in the censorship of Fox. The White House lost for trying to "control" the news. And, the grand-champion in the battle: Fox News--their ratings are through the roof.

FRIDAY FROTH...

If you’re looking for a decadent read...The Post Birthday World, by Lionel Shriver, may not be a twinkie as much as an oatmeal cookie (with lots and lots of chocolate chips and walnuts)-- it's sinful, but not completely void of "nutritional" value. The first chapter introduces an expat couple living in London. He’s a Columbia educated PhD working for a think tank and she illustrates children’s books. Their evenings are like their lives: routine. They have dinner, then watch T.V. and eat popcorn. The spice in their relationship comes, literally, from the exotic spices they use to flavor their popcorn and, from a once-a-year dinner that she and her husband have with a charming and reckless snooker player, Ramsey, on Ramsey's birthday. With her partner “think tanking” in Russia, she finds herself alone with Ramsey for one of the birthday celebrations--she has a little too much wine at dinner and goes back to the Snooker player’s house for a game. One thing leads to another and a kiss is eminent—end of chapter one. Every subsequent chapter has two versions—one tells the story of what happens if she excuses herself and goes to the loo, and the other tells the story as if she kissed him. It’s a bit of a Rorschach test so be careful!

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Other than a New York Times article a couple of weeks ago, John Edwards name has been noticeably out of the news, given a federal grand jury is investigating whether or not he is guilty of using campaign funds to conceal his extramarital affair with Rielle Hunter. It has been reported that Mr. Edwards paid a top staffer to claim paternity for the child that was the result of his transgression. Ms. Hunter flaunted the child at her grand jury appearance on August 6. It takes two to tango and both dancers should pay the price for dancing. Mr. Edwards will most likely pay the ultimate price, which for him (and most politicians) means becoming inconsequential. As evidenced by my opening statement in this paragraph--no one cares about John Edwards anymore. But what of Ms. Hunter? I think her picture should be plastered in Starbucks across the nation. Like O.J. Simpson, you should know that if you get involved with her, things could go seriously wrong!

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I’m assuming that you have your jack-o-lanterns carved and your spider webs hung, but do you have your Halloween candy bought? I have done a little research and have come up with a top ten list of favorite Halloween candy: Tootsie Rolls, Hershey’s Milk Chocolate, Nestle Crunch, Nerds, Hot Tamales, Candy Corn, Snickers, Baby Ruth, Reese’s Pieces, and my favorite, Almond Joy. Or, if you are watching your waistline, you can just stay home with a scary movie and a handsome/beautiful vampire and eat face!

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U. S. News and World Report recently had an article on “10 Tips for Living to 100”. If you are feeling like this might be fun then here you go:

1. DON'T RETIRE—Duh! Can anyone retire now?

2. FLOSS EVERY DAY—This has less to do with keeping your teeth so that you can eat, as it does with bacteria that cause cardiovascular problems—I’m serious!

3. MOVE AROUND—Yes, exercise is the only fountain of youth—do it, and do it every day.

4. EAT A FIBRE RICH CEREAL FOR BREAKFAST—I’m not necessarily hungry the first hour I’m awake but I make myself eat a little cereal with yogurt and berries and I drink a big glass of water—it’s a great way to get your metabolism started. The cereal I eat is like eating tree bark but I just keep thinking about the big latte that I’m going to treat myself with mid-morning.

5. GET AT LEAST SIX HOURS OF SLEEP—not a problem for me, I LOVE to sleep! I have a beautiful and comfortable bed, the best sheets and blankets that money can buy (this is NOT something to skimp on!), a chocolate brown bedroom that is like a cocoon and a really good snuggle partner—what’s not to love? I am so good at this that I may live to be 125!

6. CONSUME WHOLE FOODS, NOT SUPPLEMENTS—I say do both, just in case.

7. BE LESS NEUROTIC—As a rule, southern women are not neurotic so this is not a problem for me. If you however, are more Woody Allen than Daisy Mae, refer back to number three.

8. BE A CREATURE OF HABIT—They say people that live by strict routines, eating the same kind of diet and doing the same kinds of activities their whole lives live longer. I say, boring. I’ll settle for living to 97.

9. LIVE LIKE A SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST—These people live, on average, ten years longer than the average American—they don’t drink alcohol, smoke, or eat a lot of sweats. WHAT! Do we really want to live to 100—maybe not?

10. STAY CONNECTED—You can have great wealth or incredible power, but we all know that it comes down to friends and family—case closed.

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I may have found the perfect job for me! On a long flight from the east coast, I had a conversation with my seatmate, a Broadway actress. Like a lot of actresses, she has to make ends meet with other jobs. She told me that recently she has been doing “foot fetish” jobs. Men pay her from $150 an hour, to $1500 for an evening, to rub her feet. I asked to see her feet! They were normal, everyday feet, so I felt inclined to ask her if her clients rubbed anything else. They don’t go above the ankle she told me. Still not believing how great this sounded, I asked if the men kept both of their hands on her feet the whole time or did they maybe need one of their hands for, you know, themselves. She assured me that both hands were on her feet, and feet only, the whole time. I asked if she could sign me up! Imagine, someone pays you to rub your feet, AND, you get to expense pedicures, Manolos, and Louboutins! I ask you, does it get any better?

HEALTH-CARE PART 2

A couple of Tuesdays ago I wrote on palliative care—the palliative care that people need at the end of their lives to help them die with dignity. This week--another kind of palliative care.

Palliative is defined as: relieving pain or alleviating a problem without dealing with the underlying cause. I’ve always thought of palliative like a band-aide of sorts; it covers what we don’t want to see, while we wait for it to go away. The biggest (pardon the pun here) palliative problem in America is not end-of-life care—it’s obesity.

The San Francisco Chronicle recently reported that one-third of American children and adolescents are obese or overweight. Most people know that obesity causes cardiovascular disease, diabetes, contributes to many cancers, including breast and colon, and exacerbates joint problems. Yet, we continue with our unhealthy eating habits and allow our kids to do the same; we see our doctors and use medicine to treat the symptoms, while ignoring the cause. We want to eat our cake and have it too. In this case, the cake is probably fast food and sugary sodas, and having it too is still wanting to be slim and healthy. This is America—why can’t we have it all?

Time magazine reported that as a nation we are spending more than 147 billion dollars a year on diet-related illness. Yet, how many politicians have you heard talking about the cost of obesity on the health-care system? Politicians like telling people what they want to hear and people do not like to hear that they are fat. At some point, politicians are going to have to start telling people some hard truths. Warning: this will not be the last time you see the previous statement in this blog!

I recently attended a dinner party with Michael Pollan, author of The Omnivore’s Dilemma. Mr. Pollan has done extensive research on what we eat and how food gets from its sources in nature to our plates--he is a proponent of local and sustainable eating. There was good discussion on why Americans are overweight and what we should do about it. I took away these salient points from the evening: Policy is needed to help get America’s obesity problem under control, whether it be redirecting farm subsidies toward more healthy foods, or putting a tax on sugary drinks. We need to limit the number of sugary sodas we consume. And, we need to cook—Mr. Pollan stressed that almost anything we cook at home is healthier than fast food.

I would like to focus on the relationship between sodas, obesity and health-care.

The soda companies are, I’m sure, encouraging politicians to leave sodas out of the health-care conversation. They are also running ads that assume that we are all incredibly stupid. Have you seen the one with the mom getting her bags with several liters of soda out of her mini-van? She tells the camera that money is tight. She warns Washington to not put a tax on soda. Some very brave politician (is this an oxymoron?) needs to call a press conference, look into the camera and explain to this mom, and moms across the country: Yes, I know that money is tight and I think I can help you. Turn on the water facet—it’s easy, it’s non-caloric, it’s healthy, it’s safe, and it will save you money. Yes, I know that your kids will object, but you are the mom and you love them, and you want them to be healthy.

Did you know that a twelve-ounce can of soda has approximately 10 teaspoons of sugar? Can you imagine putting 10 packets of sugar in your tall latte (the smallest size at Starbucks and also 12 ounces)? If you need more reasons to limit soda intake, then you should know that they are also very acidic and hard on tooth enamel, and the phosphorus that causes them to fizz also causes calcium to be leeched from bones.

I don’t think that the government is responsible for keeping us healthy. However, because obesity is a burden on our health-care dollars (this affects our premiums), because sugar is so closely associated with obesity, and because soda has no nutritional benefits, it should have a sugar tax like cigarettes have a tobacco tax, and the tax should go directly to off-set health-care costs.

Politicians need to make some hard choices on health-care; a tax on sugary drinks would be a good place to start.

FRIDAY FROTH...

Dear Mr. Krugman:

I saw you on the Bill Maher show last week with director, John Waters and scandal-plagued politician, Eliot Spitzer. I don’t remember what you were talking about because I was so distracted by you dropping the F-bomb! Bill Maher uses this word so often that it’s not even effective—it disappears into the background like his pale skin and colorless hair. Jon Waters is a very cool movie director and everyone knows that cool movie directors use the F-word as effortlessly as they do cut and action. I’ m betting Mr. Spitzer got a feel for the four letter version of “oh my god I can’t believe I got caught” when he found out about the wiretaps linking him to a prostitution ring. But need I remind you Mr. Krugman, that you graduated from Yale, got a Ph.D. from M.I.T., and you teach at my favorite Ivy League institution, Princeton. Your biography on the New York Times website says that you have written or edited more than 20 books and 200 papers—you should know a lot of words, you don’t need to use the f-word. Not to mention, you are a Nobel Prize winner! You dropping the F-bomb is like George Clooney showing up at your door in polyester pants and having bad breath. Mr. Krugman, I don’t always agree with you; you are a Keynesian economist—I’m more of a supply-side girl, nevertheless, I read your erudite columns loyally. So please, put back on your tweed sport coat, comb your grizzled but distinguished hair and don’t let this kind of thing happen again.

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I love fall. The weather is good and so are the movies. Drew Barrymore’s directorial debut, Whip It, is perfect fare for fall—it’s well written with characters that are less than perfect looking, doing things that are interesting—not clichéd. You don’t have to like roller derby to enjoy this film as it’s more about finding your dream than knocking an opposing skater off course. The real beauty of this film is that the dreams are simple dreams---the ones that can come true for a lot of us. If you grew up it a small Southern town where beauty pageants and football rule, you will relate to this film. Take note of Marcia Gay Harden’s performance—Oscar nod? Maybe!

If you are in the mood to see bigger dreams come true, go see Coco before Chanel. French actress, Audrey Tautou, does a beautiful job portraying a young and determined Coco. The movie starts as a nine year-old Coco and her sister are being dropped off at an orphanage and ends with Coco presiding over her first couture show. Ms Tautou’s dance between gritty independence and manipulative charm brings Coco to life.

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Every few days I log on to my friend, Mary Doan’s blog, A Plethora of Postcards. Mary has been collecting postcards, sent to her by friends or to herself, for over 30 years. I am either reminded of places that I have been, or introduced to places that I want to go. A few weeks ago Mary featured a postcard from Norfork Dam in Arkansas. I grew up water-skiing on Norfork Lake and have great memories of the “big dam”. This week she had a postcard showing a cyclo in old-town Hanoi. I immediately remembered squeezing both of my kids in one of these pedicabs with me (in 100 degree heat!) in the summer of 2001 and riding through Old-Town where the streets are named, appropriately, by the items which are sold there. On Shoe Street all of the shops sell—you guessed it—shoes, and the sidewalks are lined with a superfluity of footwear of every kind. The very tiny shops have very few wares inside; they don’t always have electricity and they need the sunlight for people to be able to see what they are buying. If you are shopping for a destination or just want to dream of getting away, check out Mary’s blog: www.apleathoraofpostcards@blogspot.com

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The Supreme Court has just started their October session. They heard arguments this week of a man convicted of selling videos of dog fighting and other animal cruelty. The man was not involved in the animal cruelty, he only sold videos of it. It seems the man is protected under the First Amendment, which, rightly so, has few exceptions--obscenity and child pornography are two of these exceptions. The court will be reluctant to mess with the First Amendment but I ask you: Is it not obscene to watch videos of women trampling to death small dogs and other animals with their bare feet or high heels? Yes, it’s seems that this is a sexual fetish du jour. This is the way I see it: Like children, dogs and other animals cannot advocate for themselves. Dogs are especially vulnerable; we have domesticated these animals--inviting them to live in our homes and depend on us for food. Like children, they deserve our protection. Let’s hope that the Supreme Court does the right thing.